self-reference - Not Reverence

In the early 70's I was in Jr. High school and the new minister at the church down the street was one of those guitar-playing young preachers somewhat common to the era.
He drew a pretty good-sized crowd of teenagers from all the churches in town to his youth group meetings. He was a good guy, very entertaining, and made religion seem fun.
As part of the group activities we sometimes did the psychological role-playing thing. One particular time one of the boys in the group was told to pick another person and to BE that person as he was interviewed by the pastor. We all watched as the boy answered every question with a joke and a laugh and generally giggled throughout the entire process. Before the end of the interview everyone knew who the boy was acting as. Everyone but me. I absolutely did Not recognize myself in his behavior at all.
It was one of the better lessons I learned in a church-related setting: It's hard to see Ourselves as others see us. And it's hard for Others to See us as we are.